I have to start saying that I am normally a quiet and reserved person who doesn’t like to talk about her experiences in public.
My passion is to help people in different ways, as a travel agent I love to help couples with their honeymoon or destination wedding, and families crafting unforgettable vacations. In my personal life I like to help others with their spiritual life.
I know that you just got engaged and are super excited about it, the butterflies in your stomach each time you see him, how time flies when you are together and how hard it is to say goodbye every night until you see him again. We all have been there!
But building a life together is a different thing, there will be days that you won’t even feel like talking to him, times when you both will be mad at each other, arguments, frustrations, disappointments will come. How will you deal with it?
Let me tell you my story!
I came from Peru 16 years ago and met the guy that is now my husband on September 5th 2004. We met at La Madeleine, he was this super cute 6ft 2” tall guy with lovely eyes that blew me away with his very courteous manners. We met at 2.00 pm and spent the rest of the afternoon strolling the mall and later walking at White Rock Lake.
I felt secure with him even though i just met him, I saw kindness in his eyes and a trustworthy man so when he asked me to go for a walk to the lake I didn’t think twice and got in his car. Not smart at all, I would not recommend anyone to do it.
From that day till now many things have happened in our lives. He texted me the next morning at 7:00 am just to wish me to have a lovely day. The following days we explored Dallas together, shared dinners and weeks later we were dating, months later we were living together and got married on October 21, 2005.
I met him when I was 37 years old, thinking that my life will be my career, husband and children were not in my plans, if anything I just wanted to have some company, nothing formal, just someone to go out and have a good time. But you see, God had very different plans for my life!
The first year of our marriage was idyllic even when we discovered how different we are, like black and white colors, completely opposites! To that we had to add our cultural differences, he is white all American guy and I am Peruvian with all my Hispanic heritage!
Our only child was born in May of 2009 and we were ready for him, we looked for him and it was the biggest accomplishment of our marriage. We were complete, we were a family!
But I have to say that many struggles arrived with my son, the lack of sleep on his side and mine, different expectations on how to take care of the baby send us a bill and we were struggling as a couple. I grew in resentment toward him because he didn’t meet what I was expecting from him as a husband and dad.
Years passed, we were together but there was something missing that I couldn’t tell what it was. In 2011 I visited the Lutheran Church where I live because a friend invited me to go with her and since then I have changed churches until I found home in Lakeshore Church.
The piece that was missing in my life, in my marriage was Jesus, the day I surrendered my life to Him was the happiest day I ever lived!
I understood my role as a wife and as a mother, I learned that we are all just people and we will have expectations that no one can meet, because we are imperfect; just humans and the only one that can help us to live our life in our full potential is God.
We can’t expect or even try to change our husband, believe me, I have tried and failed! Instead we have to change ourselves, and Jesus is that power that transforms the broken pieces of our life into a beautiful painting.
Allow him to change you inside out, make Him the very first guest of your wedding, you will see how many blessings He will pour on you both and how much wisdom you will have to do what is right in your marriage and in every aspect of your life.
I am not anymore the selfish, prideful woman that he married, I learned to honor my husband in all I do, to respect him no matter what, and to support his decisions even if I don’t understand or agree with them.
This year we celebrate 15 years of marriage and of course like everyone else we will face trials, but we are united, we both know that we are on this ride till the end of our life and that with God on our side, nothing will break us apart!
As a travel agent I have seen many couples planning their Destination Wedding or Honeymoon only to find out that few years later they split. That is extremely sad! Don’t become and statistic, fight for your marriage, but fight with the right tool, invite God to your battles and I can assure you that He will win them for you!
“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken” Eclesiastes 4:12
"4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails."
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Author Rossana Jeri
Bilingual English -Spanish Travel Agent